I have not quit crying since Wednesday when my little boy came home in tears because another little child called him “stinky”. Taylor told me that he did not know if the child meant that he “literally smelt bad, or if he stunk, as in not popular.”
I can’t believe that another child would say that to my precious baby boy. The baby boy that I carried for 9 months, the baby boy that I have love unconditionally for the past 8.5 years. Momma’s why are you letting you children be mean to other children? Why are you not teaching that it is so hurtful when they speak ill to or about other children or people? Momma’s it is our job to talk and act only positively around our children because they will pick up on everything that we say and do.
My heart is just broken right now. 6 months ago when we lived in Arkansas Taylor was friends with everyone. He knew everyone in his school, and his church. I never had to worry about him getting his feelings hurt, and I have never worried about his hurting anyone else’s feelings because he is a very kind and accepting child.
Not only have I not quit crying since Wednesday, I have not quit praying. Praying for Taylor to be stronger that this other child and any situation like this that might come up in life, and praying that Taylor will find some lifelong friendships at this school.
Wednesday night when I was putting Taylor to bed we picked up our devotional Bible, and we read our daily scripture and our devotional. Now remember here how I told you that I had been praying to God all day, “to not let my little boy feel pain, and to help him find some good friends, and to feel accepted in this new school.” Our scripture was from Numbers 22: 9-14, where God said to Balaam, “Don’t put a curse on these people (the nation of Egypt), I have blessed them.” And our Devotional read: “It’s good to remember that every person is a sinner. We all have selfish hearts and want our own way. Even your friends at school. Sometimes they may say or do mean things that make you sad or angry. They may be wrong, but God says that we don’t need to get even. We can’t fix their ugly behavior by being mean, too. Instead, we need to overcome their sin with goodness. Kind words and actions can help others know God better.”
Oh my word isn’t it so amazing how the Lord proves that he hears us, and how he speaks back to us, and provides us with Paths of Wisdom!!!!
I tried to use this very moment with Taylor to walk him back through the day, and explain to him that mommy’s heart was breaking for him, and that she had been praying all day to the only person she knows to turn to in hard times. I think this was not only a reconfirmation for me of God’s Glory, but also a real eye opener for Taylor in his walk with Christ.
Lord, I hope and I pray that we, and when I say “we” I am especially talking about my children, fit in and are accepted in this new place called Marietta Georgia. As mush as I love our simplified life in the big city I will move back to NWA in a heartbeat. Where both Ryan and I have to work to live the life that we want for our family, where we are always going in a million different directions, just to bring happiness to my baby boy.
Momma’s please don’t accept bulling belittling from your children. It doesn’t do anything for anyone’s self esteem.
If anyone has any suggestions on how to get through this I would greatly appreciate them. I have already talked to Taylor’s teacher about the situation. We are working on setting up some play dates with some of the other kids in his class, and from around the neighborhood.