I have not quit crying since Wednesday when my little boy came home in tears because another little child called him “stinky”. Taylor told me that he did not know if the child meant that he “literally smelt bad, or if he stunk, as in not popular.”
I can’t believe that another child would say that to my precious baby boy. The baby boy that I carried for 9 months, the baby boy that I have love unconditionally for the past 8.5 years. Momma’s why are you letting you children be mean to other children? Why are you not teaching that it is so hurtful when they speak ill to or about other children or people? Momma’s it is our job to talk and act only positively around our children because they will pick up on everything that we say and do.
My heart is just broken right now. 6 months ago when we lived in Arkansas Taylor was friends with everyone. He knew everyone in his school, and his church. I never had to worry about him getting his feelings hurt, and I have never worried about his hurting anyone else’s feelings because he is a very kind and accepting child.
Not only have I not quit crying since Wednesday, I have not quit praying. Praying for Taylor to be stronger that this other child and any situation like this that might come up in life, and praying that Taylor will find some lifelong friendships at this school.
Wednesday night when I was putting Taylor to bed we picked up our devotional Bible, and we read our daily scripture and our devotional. Now remember here how I told you that I had been praying to God all day, “to not let my little boy feel pain, and to help him find some good friends, and to feel accepted in this new school.” Our scripture was from Numbers 22: 9-14, where God said to Balaam, “Don’t put a curse on these people (the nation of Egypt), I have blessed them.” And our Devotional read: “It’s good to remember that every person is a sinner. We all have selfish hearts and want our own way. Even your friends at school. Sometimes they may say or do mean things that make you sad or angry. They may be wrong, but God says that we don’t need to get even. We can’t fix their ugly behavior by being mean, too. Instead, we need to overcome their sin with goodness. Kind words and actions can help others know God better.”
Oh my word isn’t it so amazing how the Lord proves that he hears us, and how he speaks back to us, and provides us with Paths of Wisdom!!!!
I tried to use this very moment with Taylor to walk him back through the day, and explain to him that mommy’s heart was breaking for him, and that she had been praying all day to the only person she knows to turn to in hard times. I think this was not only a reconfirmation for me of God’s Glory, but also a real eye opener for Taylor in his walk with Christ.
Lord, I hope and I pray that we, and when I say “we” I am especially talking about my children, fit in and are accepted in this new place called Marietta Georgia. As mush as I love our simplified life in the big city I will move back to NWA in a heartbeat. Where both Ryan and I have to work to live the life that we want for our family, where we are always going in a million different directions, just to bring happiness to my baby boy.
Momma’s please don’t accept bulling belittling from your children. It doesn’t do anything for anyone’s self esteem.
If anyone has any suggestions on how to get through this I would greatly appreciate them. I have already talked to Taylor’s teacher about the situation. We are working on setting up some play dates with some of the other kids in his class, and from around the neighborhood.
Sunday, August 26, 2012
Happy Birthday to You, Happy Birthday to You,
Happy Birthday Dear Addison and Preston, Happy Birthday to you!!!!!
You two were so very sweet today eating your cake and enjoying as everyone has sang Happy Birthday to you all day long. Preston you loved your cake! Addison your cake made you so very mad. You hate to be dirty my little princess. Your brother really rubbed it in your face (literally), and that made you even madder.
We are so blessed to have you two in our family, and to have made it through the last year, and to have made it through all of our pregnancy complications. I feel like we can breathe now. I think life is only going to get easier and more enjoyable from here. We love you guys very much!!!! Happy Birthday
Happy Birthday my love bugs.
Homemade birthday hats. I love making these hats for my babies. I have made one almost every birthday they have all had. I hate that my bestie Jennifer was not here to help me make these two. I have the fondest memories of making birthday hats with her. Sigh...
Still can't believe that one year ago today Dr. Seale pulled you guys out one by one and said welcome to this world Baby A, and one minute later she said welcome to this world Baby B.
Friday, August 24, 2012
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Here are some pictures from our Deep Sea Fishing Trip. This was one of the most fun and memorable times I have ever had. I started off thinking it was a very bad idea because Taylor got sea sick, but it did not take long for his “less drowsy Dramamine” to kick in, and he was good to go. Aunt Emily on the other hand, turned green, and stayed sick for 6 hours straight!
My dad, Taylor, Ryan, Emily and I all went on this trip. We thought we were leaving with the intentions of catching some huge fish, but when we go out to the boat the captain said that it would be best for our crew to catch some smaller ones, and after reeling those things in I would have to agree. I am hoping that Ryan will be able to plan an all day deep sea fishing trip with his brothers one year. They would have such a blast.
I think after Taylor got his sea legs that he even had a blast. I love creating memories with my kids by going out on adventures, and these were memories worth creating! I would much rather spend quality time with my kids as opposed to buying them a toy. I am so thankful that my mom and my sister stayed behind to watch my other three kids. I am certain Taylor will always remember the day that we fished in the pouring down rain, thunder, and lighting, out in the middle of the ocean.
Our Catch from the Day....
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Addison and Preston did really well at the beach for their first trip. As you can see from the pictures below Addison hated the sand, and Preston could not get enough of it. I love all of these pictures of Addison, because they are right on cue with her normal personality. She hates for her hands to be dirty (please notice that she does not touch the sand), and it is not uncommon for her to be crying. And Preston loves everything messy. I could not get him to sit still long enough to take any pictures.
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
I love to watch these two interact with each other. They have missed each other so much (well I know that Emma Grace has missed Lucy, she talks about her every day). I hate that they will not get to grow up together, but we will make the most out of these trip together.
Monday, August 20, 2012
On Friday the 17th Ryan and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. Ryan surprised me by arranging for his mom and Poppy to be here for a long weekend to watch the kids, so he and I could have a romantic getaway to Savannah, GA. Ryan reserved us a beautiful room at an old Bed and Breakfast that was built in 1868, called the Gastonian. Where we had a beautiful fireplace in our room and a huge Jacuzzi tub. It was so nice. Every day at the B&B we had wine and cheese, they fixed us breakfast, and had dessert waiting on us each night. We took lots of naps, and we walked around the old squares and loved every minute of being together and being alone.
This was the first time I have been away from Addison and Preston for more than a couple hours, since the day they were born. I think they did okay for Nene and Poppy, but we could all tell that Addison was ready for mommy to be home.
I am so thankful for this time away with my husband, and time to reflect on the last 10 years of marriage, and the last 15 years that we have known each other. We have accomplished so much together, and I am so very proud of our hard work, and our beautiful family. I love waking up each day just knowing that I get to spend it with Ryan, and I look forward to spending the next 70 years together and in love.
Thank you Nene and Poppy for your help with our children. Thank you Ryan for picking me to be your wife. I love you!!!
If you have never been to Savannah, what are you waiting for. It was wonderful. I love old, and I love old cities, and this was a very old historic American city.
We did romantic things like walk around the old graveyards. It was amazing to see the gravestones form the 1700, where the average life expectancy was 35 years old.
This was one of the best restaurants I have ever eaten at. It was wonderful southern cooking.
These are some of the pictures that we took at the beach a couple weeks ago. I wish I could have packed all of these people up and brought them home with me in my suitcase. Good time had by all.
I don't know if you can tell but all of the girls have on matching red and white dresses. I thought they looked so very cute! I found the big girls dresses before we left, and Addison is wearing Lucy old dress that matches perfectly. Lucy was not a very happy princess when she figured out this was her birthday gift! I don't know what Aunt Laura was thinking getting a 4 year old clothes for her birthday.
The whole crew - except Jonathan. He was missed, and we will give him an out this year but not next!
My beautiful family of 6!